Dating a child of alcoholics

Addictive behavior attempts to repair a state of bad feeling but is a Faustian Bargain that perpetuates itself and often asks the ultimate price.Addiction can be compared to an unhealthy, fanatical love.Of course you wouldn’t, you would care for them and express great amounts of unconditional love toward them.So, then why do we have such a tendency to not like the alcoholic in our lives? They struggle with the horrible addiction day in and day out.Learning to take care of ourselves is the beginning of being able to express compassion toward the person suffering from the disease of alcoholism.Having compassion and loving someone who drinks all the time does not mean that we must accept unacceptable behavior from an alcoholic.What it does mean is that we must learn how to live life differently than we have been.To have unconditional love for an addict means that we accept them as they are but we do not allow them to treat us or our family with disrespect.

I don't often contribute, but I shared that I, too, still loved the alcoholic that I was once married to.Unnatural and arbitrary hedonic management by substances or stereotyped processes distorts and cripples the psyche and places the individual at a grave survival disadvantage.The addict is double-minded because he cannot really and truly desire recovery until he already has it.": All of us can communicate loud and clear without using words. I'd like to do this again very soon.'" You may laugh at first, but think about that for a minute. We communicate loud and clear with our actions, and if we're not careful, we could be telling lies! Ashton: You mean, you can be dishonest by kissing someone? If putting your arm around someone means "I like you," and holding hands means "I really like you," than maybe kisses mean "I love you." What do you think?In fact, as the old saying goes, "Actions speak louder than words." With that idea in mind, let's ask some questions. Some will say, "I don't know about that; I don't think kisses mean I love you." Perfect. Maybe kisses mean something different to you than they do to me, or to him, or her.

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