So before you embark on a new relationship, we’re giving you some tips.
#1 Sometimes, you just can’t help One of the most frustrating things to come to terms with is that sometimes, you can’t do a damn thing to make your lover happy.
You may wonder why I am not asking a therapist about this…This is because every therapist I’ve ever seen does not take my desire to date or find a partner seriously.
Every time I raise this issue in the therapist’s office, it gets dismissed. I’m really interested in getting your opinion on this whole complex issue. And not in some sort of vague, quasi-sympathetic way either.
Or if your condition did not improve and you stayed that way your whole life, would you be expected to live a celibate/companion-less life?
Are there any particular pitfalls in dating that depressed people are more susceptible to than healthy people?
Suppose you had treatment-resistant depression (or any chronic mental illness), assuming that you had been going the medication-and-therapy route for years to no avail, and that you were doing all you could to help yourself in your condition, but that you were just not able to function on the same level as a healthy person (i.e., too unstable to keep a job, on social assistance, disability status, etc.).
Just because someone is depressed doesn’t mean they can’t be in a relationship.You could be doing everything right down to the smallest detail, and your lover’s mood still won’t change.[Read: How volunteer work can heal depression] #2 You need to come first This is pretty much the opposite what we *think* we should feel towards our partners.NEW YORK, NY - FEBRUARY 21: A couple pause in Brooklyn's Fort Greene Park in the fog on February 21, 2014 in New York City.After weeks of bitter cold weather and heavy snow, New York and much of the Northeast got a break from winter with warming temperatures.