There is massive family and societal pressure to marry and have children, and for the modern Beijing inhabitant living otherwise a more relaxed and socially free life than in years past, this can mean huge family strife.
Four months into my life as a newly minted Beijing resident, I made the following discoveries:1.
I live in Beijing, a city of over 20 million people, with a history that dates back three millennia.
Beijing is also where China’s identity crisis makes itself most evident – the struggle to hold to its traditions, while attempting to shake them off in a race to become modern and Westernised.
One-night-stands or short casual flings seem the norm for many guys before they move on to the next women.
One friend with an actual boyfriend of 2 months commented that 2 months is long for Beijing.
The women of Beijing come from all over the country, drawn for professional opportunity and a more exciting life, and the city is full of sophisticated, successful women with high standards.I was based in Shanghai for the last 18 months and you kinda go through cycles of friends, not many people I knew stayed longer than 6 months.“Don’t do it – or at least don’t expect anything” “There is no dating in Beijing, just casual hook ups” “Getting laid is easy, finding a boyfriend is hard” “Dating is so difficult in Beijing” “You can’t even get a one-night stand here” Those are some comments I got when I conducted my utterly unscientific survey on this topic with a handful of single women in Beijing, ranging from their twenties to forties. But they have been here for a while, usually way over a year, and been through the cycles of dating frustrations.As said before, Beijing is not a relationship place.I met many single women in Beijing, who were not single by choice.