The phone call with news that you're going to be a father has come, and in an instant, it feels like the bottom of your world has dropped out.
As anxiety overtakes you, you begin thinking about how you're going to extract yourself from this mess with a gal you've had a one-night-stand with, or have been dating for awhile.
Much of the healing for men after a BPD breakup involves understanding the negative aspects of their partner’s behavior.
But in order for a man to heal from the longing to get back those good feelings it is very important that he understand the profound effects her positive behavior had on him as well.
From Wikipedia: Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a personality disorder characterized by unusual variability and depth of moods.
Like a lot of people with BPD, I have a chameleon-like ability to take on the coloring of the individual I am with. When other people aren’t around me I feel invisible.
But the act is done more to fool me than to fool them. Engaging in impulsive “pain management" behaviors, such as going on spending sprees, having promiscuous sex, driving recklessly, abusing drugs or alcohol, binge eating, breaking the law, threatening suicide or making attempts, and engaging in self-harm.
If your affair has abruptly ended, read this first; being trapped into marriage and/or fatherhood, and the repercussions are vast.
Historically, no female ever wanted to be pregnant outside of wedlock, so men have naively continued to hand the issue of birth control over to their partners.