But things have changed a bit since Carrie and Samantha were NYC’s queen bees.Mind The Gap caught up with two single British women who know their way around the modern New York dating scene, where most of the groundwork is now done online.But you don’t have to worry about that with a New Yorker.From the subway smells to passing dumpsters in a heat wave, they’ve become desensitized to smells. In fact, everything from autumn through the New Year in NYC is amazing.“Meeting people in London was a lot more straightforward,” says Temi, 27, a Brooklynite of two-and-a-half years. The best thing is I’ve met some really cool and interesting people and stayed friends with them.” It takes longer for relationships to get serious in the U.“Being an expat, you don’t have that established group of people to introduce you around.” So Temi turned to online dating. S., she explains, so there are typically no hard feelings if things don’t work out after a few months.There was the super-successful corporate honcho with a cardboard box for a nightstand. And I can’t forget the “totally eligible” magazine editor who moved to the suburbs while we were dating, convinced me to take a bus to visit him, showed off his two-story brick house with granite kitchen counters and an actual backyard, as if knowing it was exactly what I aspired to—and then promptly married someone else.The best friend with whom I had zero sexual attraction. There were men who have dropped me on my head, literally and figuratively. At some point, I yelled at almost all of these men for not being “what I wanted,” and, as we all do, turned to my female friends for consolation and support.
“I met some nice people, but realistically I went for the hottest girl you could find.” He spent the better part of his 30s going on up to three dates a week, courting 20-something blond models, but eventually realized that dating the prettiest young things had its drawbacks — he found them flighty, selfish and vapid.
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“I thought it was a bit creepy at first, and I never would have used dating sites back home,” she says. Abigail Claire, 26, who moved to Manhattan nearly five years ago, is a U. “There’s a guy who I dated for five or six months and I just moved to his neighborhood,” says Abigail.
“If I bumped into him on the street I’d say, ‘Let’s go for coffee.’ If I bumped into one of my ex-boyfriends in Britain, I don’t think I’d be as forthcoming.” But be warned single ladies in NYC: not everyone you’ll meet online is friend-worthy, let alone bed-worthy.