One of those names probably looks less familiar than the others, and for good reason.But for those who do, the experiences between the genders is often strained and stunted by well-meaning but traditional parents and communities.Family and Children | Hadith | Health | Hijab | Islam and Christianity | Islam and Medicine | Islamic Personalities | Other | Personal Growth | Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) | Qur'an | Ramadan | Science | Social Issues | Women in Islam |Dating is getting to know each other.However the dating that is vogue in North America involves intimate relationship such as touching, kissing, petting, necking that ultimately results in pre-marital sex.Although Irshad's family isn't aganist her dating, they have taken things into their own hands."My parents and my grandparents are constantly asking other people, anyone they meet 'do you know anyone good for my daughter? Irshad says her parents aren’t pushing her into a marriage, rather "helping" in the process.As with any other religious group there is a high level of variation between individuals within that group.These points should only be seen as tendencies to look out for and warnings of what to be prepared for, not as certainties.
It should be taken as seriously as any other major decision in life - with prayer, careful investigation, and family involvement.In a nutshell, Shaikh says, he felt like they were having fun and he wasn't. Ghazala Irshad, who also grew up in a Muslim family in Illinois, says she knows young Muslims who growing up, were told to "lower [their] gaze" when they came across the opposite sex. We don’t know how to talk to the opposite sex, how do we go about this?"[But] by the time it comes to the age of trying to get married, then our parents are like, well, why aren’t you getting married, we want grandchildren ... We’re not allowed to date, we’ve been separated, we haven’t developed friendships," she says.This article attempts to offer some guidance on what a man should expect on this journey.All points are generalizations only, based on the personal experiences of the author, who is not a Muslim.