We began to notice that the women who played hard to get, either deliberately or by accident, were the ones who got the guys, while the women who asked guys out or were too available were the ones who got dumped.
We put two and two together, and wrote and wrote, and that’s how The Rules were born!
Like most women our age, we were career-minded with our own apartments, but we also wanted to get married.
So over fried tofu and mixed vegetables, we each brought our dating problems to the table.
We are wives, mothers, co-authors, dating coaches, and have been best friends for the last 30 years.
We did The Rules, wrote The Rules, and have helped millions of women do The Rules, too. Whether you were recently hurt or haven’t been in a relationship for a while, you want immediate gratification and compensation for all the pain and heartache of recent years or even decades.
I’ve already expressed my argument for why in two posts: one on how critical it is to find the right life partner and how seriously we should take that quest, and another on why going to bars is a terrible life experience.
The first step in ending up with the right person is meeting the right person, and for something so important in our lives, we’ve had for doing it efficiently and intelligently.
She played along and pushed right back and they’ve already got a first date lined up. “He was so lively and engaging that I sort of had no choice but to come back with something equally witty and creative.” “So by him writing something playful and interesting to you, he actually brought out a more playful and interesting side of you? Wouldn’t it stand to reason that if you took the time to write something interesting and creative back to these guys, you might discover that they actually have a personality?
I asked this client what made this email exchange different from the other exchanges. I mean, from the majority of your emails, you sound really boring, too.