White women range from those so intrigued by black men that it veers into fetish to those so reluctant to date black men that it feels more racist than preference-driven.These are generalizations, of course, but they are attitudes that I've personally encountered.On a recent Monday, it was his turn to visit, and when he arrived, they laughed and hugged and kissed. The travel may be expensive and exhausting, but for Jones, it’s better than no relationship at all.She echoed the women in Large’s column, saying that it’s nearly impossible to find a black man to date in Seattle.They would ask me about the “colored kids” at my job as a camp counselor and spoke the word “bi-racial” in hushed tones, as if it were something to be ashamed of.
I have my own unique experiences and some of them include having dated women who are white, but because interracial dating is such a historically tense and loaded subject, it's hardly ever looked at with any understanding or compassion for the people personally involved.On a recent Friday night, Riley, a tall, fit woman, stood before her vanity, a full spread of makeup and hair products in front of her. I grew up in one of the seventeen cities in the United States named Rochester (Wikipedia, 2015).Growing up in New Hampshire didn’t prevent me from making friends or dating guys who weren’t white.I felt a certain pride in hanging out with people who were Dominican, Indonesian, Laos, Filipino, Hispanic, etc. My parents taught me good morals, like not judging others by their appearance, though I did have to keep my jaw clenched when I visited relatives.