One hundred thirty-five newlywed couples, who all said they were happily married, took a test designed to elicit their subconscious doubts.The test is similar to one used to show people whether they have prejudices they may not even be aware of against different racial groups, genders, age groups or others.” I am not surprised at all, this situation is the worst!
Cohabitation can result in sliding into a longterm relationship that was never meant to be, using up critical years of potential child-bearing age, and perpetually postponing making a permanent partner choice. After thinking about it for awhile, I realized it’s not in the “knowing” that we get stuck. It’s in how well we trust what we know, and whether we’re willing to trust it enough to act upon it. Well, let me ask you this: How did you know that you were going to marry the person you married, or take the job you were offered, or go see the new doctor you read about? Or, how do you know when it’s time to end a relationship? I know that I can try it out for awhile and see what it’s like. So, what is it that stops us, really, from trusting ourselves? That some of our decisions have caused us pain or misfortune and we are afraid of our judgment? Make a new decision, have a new experience, try something new? Build the kind of trust in yourself that you would want in a good friend. They simply either work or don’t for the time being. To pick up your free ebook: Om Freely: 30 Ways to Live Out Loud, please visit I didn’t really have a good answer for her at the time, but it stuck with me. I know that this is an opportunity that is presenting itself now, which means on some level I am ready for it. Every experience we’ve had contributes to the people we are today. We stand at the precipice of new beginnings, right now. So, the question is not if we’ve made poor decisions in the past. The question is: How willing we are to get up to the plate and swing again? Someone once pointed it out to me that choices are “strategies.” They’re not right or wrong, good or bad. Sonya Derian is the owner and founder of Om Freely, a company dedicated to helping people live out loud, tap into their power, and transform their lives.If your instincts say leave and your heart says stay, then which do you listen to?Like I said, it can be an all-out raging war if your heart and instincts aren't in sync.